Letter to Kaltoum

Dear Kaltoum,

Greetings from the Deep South. It is raining here. Last night it poured down for hours and lightning struck somewhere close enough that it smelled like smoke in the midst of the storm. I wonder if it has rained yet where you are. Probably not. I wish there was some way you could tell me.

Bryan spoke to Musa for just a couple of minutes two nights ago and I hovered nearby snatching up scraps of information as I could. I told Bryan to tell Musa to greet you, as I am sure he has by now. Musa said you are taibaan shadiid, and I think my heart broke a little when I heard these words. I am so sorry you are suffering my friend. I wish you knew the crushing sense of helplessness I feel when I hear you and your children and the whole community are hungry, that you haven’t eaten for days. I think of the pasta and flour that is probably rotting behind the doors we left so tightly locked behind us and feel sick. Bryan told Nehemiah to give Musa some extra money with his salary this month. My deepest prayer is that some of that will reach you and Nariman, Samani and Kajija.

How are your children? I imagine Nariman still leading packs of children across the camp and getting into trouble. She is beautiful and strong, like you. Someday she will be a leader. Samani is probably still quiet, never wandering too far from your side. And Kajija? She is the one I worry about. After you carried her in your womb so many hungry miles when you ran, she has always been small and hungry. I remember you telling me how she cries like a cat whenever she smells meat. Has she been healthy? I pray for her often.

My girls are well and send their greetings. Mariam is walking, almost running, and tries her best to keep up with her sister, which is no small feat. Hana is more herself every day, unafraid, stubborn, clever. You would laugh to see her climbing the termite mound next door with a group of little boys.

Do you often wear the tobe I left you? I am sorry it was not something more practical but I hope it makes you think of me sometimes and know I am thinking of you. It was the first one I ever bought all those years ago in K. Do you remember those days? Days when we would sit on the back porch and talk while you washed my dishes and I sat with a notebook and pen and fumbled through my crippled Arabic. And then later days when my Arabic was a bit more comprehensible and we talked about deeper things like marriage, circumcision and childbirth. When I think of you and that back porch I often think of me leaning over the edge and retching while you laughed and said I was carrying a girl. And you were right, weren’t you?

Sometimes I wish life would have played out like we all hoped it would back then. Maybe then we would still be there in K, before you ran to D and then I ran here. Maybe then we would have sat on that back porch and you could have taught me your language and I could have taught you to read, and then letters like this could actually be possible between us. But then again, if we were in the same place we wouldn’t need letters to talk would we?

Please greet the others – Limon, Omsalama, Senowia, Rella, Sunday, and so on – tell them I pray for their children too. Prayers seem like such a small thing to offer. Sometime I confess I doubt how the silent words I murmur in the dark under my mosquito net could ever turn into sorghum in your daughter’s belly. But my faith is perhaps not as strong as yours, at least not as tested. Maybe my prayers just turn to courage in your bones or peace in your heart or the simple knowledge that someday everything will be different. Things will be different someday. That much I do believe. But, if prayers give you comfort, know they are yours in abundance. If prayers are of value to you, you are rich beyond measure.

Finally, do you remember the story you told me about the boy whose mother turned into a bird? I can only remember the first two lines to the song she sang him. When I see you again you must remind me of the rest because I keep singing those two lines over and over. It is such a pretty song.

Love and blessings on you, my friend. You who bear childhood scars of shrapnel, you who birthed one baby outside your house alone and another on the side of the road, you who lost your firstborn to sickness and your husband to neglect, you who are beautiful and proud and unafraid to laugh and unafraid to cry, you are my friend and my inspiration and one of the strongest women I know. May that strength sustain you. 

May God be with you always,

Libby